“But society has not coalesced around some of these other occasions that individual women might say are more important days to be celebrated,” she says. “But society has accepted the idea that on a woman's wedding day, this is a day that she deserves to be the center of attention, that everyone should see her as the star of the show.”

Now a few thoughts are starting to coalesce in my mind.

The giraffes coalesced into a massive herd.